As I shared last month, I recently left my position as a hospital chaplain. Now that the change is made and the emotions have settled, I’m noticing some shifts in my physical experience. A slight release in my neck; deeper breathing; increased energy; more restful sleep. I feel tangibly lighter. These physical signs point to a reality I previously denied: I had been living in a nearly constant state of stress. Now my nervous system finally feels safe enough to relax.

I learned to drive as a teenager, both nervous and empowered by the prospect of such independence. Along with control over this powerful machine came control of my own schedule and social life. I was a quick learner, but I made my share of mistakes. At times I was too tentative, at times too bold. It took time and coaching to find my rhythm. I remember going out for driving practice with my father, who offered sage advice while anxiously gripping the dashboard. “Take it

Not everything you plant will thrive. As a young gardener, I had very specific visions of what my garden should look like. I plotted out which flowers would go where. I ruthlessly weeded out invaders that threatened my sense of order. I watered and fertilized when the plants seemed reluctant. And inevitably, I grew frustrated when nature didn’t follow my plans. My mother, a wise and seasoned gardener, offered gentle advice. She encouraged an attitude of experimentation, r

My three-year-old is a naturally affectionate kid. She loves hugs, snuggles, and curling up on my lap to read books. She has lots of what I call “rituals of connection.” When I leave for work in the morning we always hug and blow kisses. At bedtime she says “night-night” to each family member in the house. Whenever she falls down or gets a boo-boo, she needs a kiss to make it better. Perhaps my favorite is her habit of calling out to me in the middle of whatever she’s

Whenever I tell someone that I work at a State Psychiatric Hospital, their eyes widen. They likely imagine straight-jackets and padded rooms, or scenes from One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest . I typically make a joke, or share a story aimed at normalizing my work. I don’t want people to think I’m some sort of hero, and I don’t want to reinforce the stigma around serious mental illness. What I don’t share in these casual conversations is that I had a panic attack during my fi

I began this month with high expectations. After a joyful and refreshing Christmas vacation, I wanted to bring all that good energy with me into the new year. I resolved to find more balance between work and play, to maintain sleep and exercise routines for my mental health, and to keep focused on the things that bring me joy. It felt good to have a plan. I used this momentum to put my goals into action sustainably. At home, I kept up the routines that hold me steady and

I love Christmas music. Not overproduced holiday pop songs, but the classic carols. I only listen to them one month of the year, but they fill me with nostalgia. I remember all the Christmas Eves spent singing Silent Night by candlelight in a darkened sanctuary. I chuckle at the memories of my family singing from different hymnals and arguing over the correct verses. And now I get teary-eyed watching my own children learn and sing these cherished songs. Some of my favori

Someone recently asked if the spiritual practices I write about help us get rid of negative emotions. I often highlight the positive benefits of joy, connection, and gratitude these practices can bring, but the question gave me pause. It helped me to clarify an important point: mental well-being is not defined by the absence of painful emotions . As much as we’d all like to be happier, it’s not realistic to live without sadness, anger, or fear. Pushing away our painful emo

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